
From Dan Conway’s The Good Steward, March 2008
In the mid 1970s, the late Monsignor Charles Koster traveled from Indianapolis to Saint Meinrad once a week to teach a class on the Sacrament of Marriage to seminarians. Monsignor Koster was well-qualified for this assignment. At the time, he was Judicial Vicar for the Archdiocese of Indianapolis and Pastor of St. John the Evangelist Catholic Church.
Having personally dealt with thousands of married couples—in both good times and bad—Monsignor Koster was keenly aware of the importance of this sacrament for the health and vitality of the family, the Church and society. During one of his classes at Saint Meinrad, he summed up his view of marriage by saying, “It’s unreasonable to think that any two people should be able to stay together for life—without the grace of Christ assisting them. There are many serious obstacles to a successful married life. God’s grace can overcome these, but only if the couple cooperates.”
Success in marriage involves much more than simply “staying together.” It requires a partnership that is spiritual, emotional and physical. It means committing to a lifelong journey that will require ongoing conversion from self-centeredness to a genuine openness to another. And it requires the willingness to sacrifice individual goods and desires for the sake of others—spouse, children and an extended family that opens out to the entire community. Without patience, perseverance and a profound sense of the presence of God’s grace, the sacrifices that even ordinary married life demands can seem overwhelming. And in times of severe doubt or trial, God’s grace is especially needed to keep the couple together, to heal their wounds and to strengthen the bonds that selfishness, sin and serious neglect too often weaken or tear apart. …
















